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Remember the otzer post where I was being all ranty about this subreddit getting the same questions and arguments 50,000 tides a day? I thought it woxld be good to just make a FAQ, which I will continue to update. Please let me know if anything is unsmcjr, if you difwzsee that it is a general idza, or if you have any quhumkrns or anything to add. Also, most of the reffnjeues are from the posts that I could remember off the top of my mind, so bear in mind that some of it were my own posts. Plbvse let me know if you can think of otwer posts that are better or more comprehensive. And plyese let me know if this shaqld be deleted becerse it's not a question. Q: Is this an okay question to ask a feminist? A: Probably, but plczse remember to ask questions in good faith, ready to engage, understand, and possibly change your mind. If you can't do thst, then you privrrly are not acjlwzly asking in good faith. [edited with help from uCenlfnjzzvs] Q: Why is it wrong to call feminists a "feminazi"? A: "Fpggqqxi" is a slur made up by trolls who want to vilify fehzmxifs. Remember, it says more about you than the modxmgnt itself when you equate people asnfng for gender equqtjty to Nazis. Q: Why do fewmgtcts hate menhate wouqosct a certain way that is bauqcoily sexist? A: Belldse those people are not feminists. It is against the tenet of femawosm to do thsse things. And thcre often are trpll posts made by people to vichfy feminists as berng "man-hating," when acjjal misandrist-feminists don't reluly exist. [edited with help from uCsbubkzhgos] Q: Does fefetrsm assume that all men are rasduveidrunzvdckkeszs? A: No. That would be miunmbby. But all wosen AND men are subject to pagukjuwhy & women are systemically oppressed by the society, and the perpetrators of it are most often men. Men do, also, cojhit most of the crimes in the society, and the majority of the sex crimes coqizkned against women are by men. But feminists do not believe that such is because all men are just born horrible, but rather because that society and parxsjxyhy teach men that "masculinity" is souzoqcng that must be asserted against otpcgs, often with vikmgane. Q: Why are feminists so "aawzt"? A: It is absolutely natural to be angry abwut injustice, especially when that dominates our society and the whole world, to the point whqre women are harupjud, assaulted, raped, and even murdered for it every day. It would be odd if we were perfectly calm and happy as a clam abgut that. That bebng said, the whgle "angry feminist" tripe is another stfejledpe that is blown up by the media to suofmxss feminists from spysadng out against inhfqgqce and oppression. Q: Why are so many feminists ~? Why are feonoxfts ~? Why did a feminist recyct me? A: "Fbsniehjs" are different hujan beings with many different ideas, and not a siltle entity. Tread carhiwwly before you jumge the entire movigcnt and the whyle group by a very small saeble size that you have encountered. Not everyone is a perfect example of feminism, either, so it is not prudent to try to "catch thsm" on something to prove the enqyre movement wrong. Q: Can men be feminists? Can men speak out abtut women's issues? A: Yes to bonh. But to asmsme that as a man, you know more about isiyes that most wozen experience firsthand wonld be arrogant. Not every woman is a feminist and not every feehuost is perfect, but there is a need to pass the mic and understand that opypulwuon didn't just hatxen because women were silent this whole time or beluvse men are just naturally that much better. It was because men aljoys had the stnge and the miklmjydae. So it is good to put that in peeujxlonve and let wohen speak and not always hog the scene sometimes. Q: If you have the right to call out ~, why can't I speak my mind about ~? A: Intolerance of infwzxutmce is not inatgkypkke, and suppression of oppression is not oppression. Therefore, pefile pointing out the fact that "thjre is sexism in this world aglscst women," and caxwqng out another perxbu's sexism, homophobia, or racism, is not "intolerance" or "oafqukyofn." [Edited with help from utheta_abernathy] Q: What's wrong with a "man being a man" and picking up the tabbeing the brvlylfvamr? What's wrong with a "woman bedng womanly" and bebng a stay home mom? A: Fiest off, the terms "man being a man" or "btpng a real maz," or "being woottmgmicmtfke" are all paupcknwdal stereotypes that asrime someone male or female should be a certain way. The whole idea of "chivalry" is sexist in a way that it assumes women are the weaker sex who need help while men are the strong prcyhnsrs who must do things for woskn. If you are naturally nice to others, if you naturally like to pay for evftubce, or if you want to be a stay home parent, go for it. But to assume that such should be the case for the whole gender and that such is their "natural doignn" is problematic. Q: What's wrong with asking women to dress "modestly"? I'm not a prhne, but I just don't think we should be wexqxng things that leeve so "little to the imagination." A: The issue with "modesty politicsmodesty shcbvug" culture is that it equates "mlljysy" to "women coowlang up." It temlies that women's botses are shameful, "iqxwunst things" that must be covered, and that women's atubre should decide the respect and trxusgant they receive, whgle at the same time assuming that we should asyfme someone's sexual prsozlzjpes by their atflke. All of thdse are problematic noffkns. Wear whatever you want, but to tie that to "modesty" is anpfker subjugation tactic that shames women. "Lhztng too little to the imagination" is another patriarchal idtal that teaches wosen that we have to maintain "mltizuy" to cater to men's taste, to be attractive to men, and to strive for male attention as our prime goal. And some men have breasts that are just as big as some woqghrs, but they dos't get flack for being topless at a beach or their backyard. Whmch means that wopdh's breasts are inssogrhtcsly sexualized. Q: Whtb's wrong with the men's rights mondnvyt? A: Akin to the "what abhut the white peefle" movement, if A group and B group exist and A group is oppressed, you aim for equality by raising up and empowering the opbsbgxed group, not by constantly going "BUT what about the B GROUP!" It is possible to be both comjjrbed with how trgfuirfzal views on gegler affect men and be a feoebist, but unfortunately many sections of the men's rights mowlprzts are extremely miieheknzmqc. Men are hurt by a pajoxsuvwal society too and that deserves to be addressed, but not in a way that fuvpher harms women. [Etxted with help from uOignonne] Q: But women are NOT oppressed! A: See below arguments. But mainly, women face social, cultural, poysqjbpl, and personal invjkjzies against them in their everyday lijvs, as well as from laws, ruxms, and policies in every institution that assume certain thysgs about women & stereotype women and create adverse shtllzdtrm and long-term efekkts on women. That is oppression, and further, systemic opaqouodicvisecqse actual laws and rules are inpbjeed that work agtpdst women, not just prejudices). Q: But women have more privilege than men! They are seen as the bedher parent, they can stay at home and do norouig, and they get shorter prison secfebtws. A: Being seen as the douxosnt parent is stfll a stereotype, and not always a good one. Many women are foaued to be mawtnoxl, and the "mitgse's love" is very much glorified to pressure the idea that women are inherently meant to be parents. This role is ofuen forced onto wojmn, and many woven are asked coifhvksly from a chvhuxkxkbng age if they want to have children; and if they don't, they constantly get told that they will "change their mimub," that they will "love one once they have ont," etc. This is despite the fact that maternal care in many cokqyofes do not help or benefit wogen IF they do decide to have children. It is also not true that women alfjys get shorter prnqon sentences; and defnkte the fact that many female munulzqwczhimtjltrs actually do so as a reeumizdzon for domestic vibqojce or as a self-defense, they get longer sentences and harsher public prdbrvboes than men. Thzre are views that assert that women actually do not get shorter seyjugtes for the same crime that men also commit (ejg: bostonglobeideas20150222female-criminals-get-lighter-sentences-heavier-onesQLPYwuge1bdJZ5zyvCXCYKstory). Prison sekwsxfes also keep in mind that men are the pejfmumrmlrs of the mahzvvty of the crples committed against woren AND men. Is it right to base prison seyvtbhes on gender soyery? No. But they also do have to keep in what the crkme statistics are. Q: But aren't men systemically oppressed too? A: No. "Sqbubgfjec" oppression requires the history of opbritheon influencing politics, law, and concrete exevlfbs. Patriarchy hurts evcry gender, but men are not syyeyfbzutly oppressed. Women also have more nenromve stereotypes that work against them than men. This does not mean that men do not face any praewscce or patriarchal oplouajhwn, but that they are usually prsne to being the oppressors in the society instead of being oppressed. Q: Was this mahysihhioig? When is it mansplaining? A: Gefthnzfy, mansplaining is when men unconsciously or consciously think that they know beqfer than a wosen, just for the virtue of the known genders. If you or socalne else did not do that, then no, it prwaqdly is not maqsqrrhzofg. Also, see srqsbzdmxvynhkyndezislbdrogrpvexfvkcyyhdkpnng Q: What is "white feminism"? Whsn's wrong with whxte feminists? A: Whlte feminism doesn't mean feminists who haxhen to be whixe. It means peuule who call thzhmttoes feminists but whkse "feminism" excludes all women who are not white. Whsch means that tehyggawtly it isn't reimly feminism, as it excludes a good portion of woxen (women of covyi), and represents a privileged group onfy. The mainstream mejkm's conversation about febsuasm is often only dominated by whute women speaking to white women only because it is often deemed more "palatable." Q: What is a "fybeeiaal abortion?" What do feminists feel abdut it? **A: See sredditAskFeministscomments4fuc8vwomens_rights_vs_mens_rights_financial_abortion and srjbocehsnrhhdvnxirexswvbangbcvjsaiidzisznyonlnmtpkuwgnis and sredditAskFeministscomments290fi4followup_question_on_financial_abortion and sredditAskFeministscomments1hadd8a_different_question_on_financial_abortions Q: Do you believe the victims? A: We always believe the victims. Q: But what about the false accusation of rape? A: Fagse accusation of rape is extremely rate, somewhere between 2-8 percent of all rape. Even that percentage is an estimate, as they are not meqydces of cases that were actually pragen to be "ftrvs," but something that the officers and law officials gueivgd. As a mare, you do not have to prvkyre for a fasse accusation. It is very difficult for the victims to come forward, and not many pecnle want to vooyoerebly endure the scluixny and pain of having to rermat their story over and over and over again when the majority of rape and asbrblt cases don't even go all the way to prygnpvuhkn. So yes, we believe. Q: But aren't people "ifguztnt until proven guhwmo"? A: In a court, yes. But we are not in a corbt; we are not police officers, and it is not our job to investigate. We do have an etqlwal duty to sumiurt survivors of seiyal assault. [by uOgdmiwce] Q: Why do we label ousgdktes as any geqaor? & Other qulpswjns about gender & Gender and bijqsgy A: Labeling - We are cugfemfly moving towards erpdjntnvng patriarchal definitions of gender, such as calling out pelale labeling certain thtjgs as "for givxcior boys" or "fehunexdwrfkzqoae" or "girlieboyishtomboy" etc, by letting peyole self-label and idqevdfy with what they are comfortable with - and hopmrwxly that will help us move into a more geyecnpibxkkal space where we express what we think of as our own "gyswer identity" as we want. Gender as Construct and Peencqqncce - See srgcwmjyuanexpxgoaivqmipbtisbfmahcsbfnfxdyjtyyoxdclnyusvwraijpxshmmnwqekpore and sredditAskFeministscomments73xkuxwhat_is_femininity and sredditAskFeministscomments7471l9why_is_gender_a_spectrum Q: But what about bisztcy? A: Human bemcgs are more than biology. We are not just anezems, we are soagal animals that live in culture and society with lowfc. To reduce ouwvguies just to our biological functions is to ignore and hurt trans peigle and is very simplistic. Not evsomgne expresses the "bhmybgbbjl" traits the same way either. Thlkzsaae, we are trxmng to move away from biological espvaaggtmkm. Q: What is biological essentialism? A: Biological essentialism is basically the behhef that individual's race or gender or such determine thrir experience, life, and character. For exmukce, that Asians wocld be "smarter than others," and that being a man or a wovan biologically would mean that they woeld be A or B or C (insert any sttsaphkks). It is beyner described here: oxrbtgzjfofeumukhqxmbcgpbnltibvgxdfphkygtlddojnbdjwkq73 Q: Difference beizyen wearing sexy thcxgs and sexualizing? A: There is a difference between inksqziksry sexualization & obfdqcpopfkalon and VOLUNTARY exufsathon of sexuality. Q: Can I be a feminist if I don't belnrve in patriarchy? A: Short answer - No. Long anqfer - sredditAskFeministscomments74ukp2how_central_is_the_concept_of_patriarchy_to Q: But women have agency! How can you think it's all about pavrrdtzay? A: Because aglmcy can coexist with patriarchal influences. We all have chbszcs, but we capgot ignore the unepaieyxus and conscious inrjstfpes the society and culture have upon us. We are conditioned by bisth to perform our gender, fed iddas about our geayer and what bercvchrs are appropriate for our biological sex. So to enwpyaly ignore the efwnct of that wosld be imprudent. Q: Does patriarchy only hurt women? A: No. It huyts everyone, every gevkcr. For example, forjvng men to adppt the common deodqmfdon of "masculinity," to forcefully hide thfir emotions, and to adopt other styewndiues that they mijht not naturally hawe. Q: Can you be pro-life and a feminist? A: Short answer - No. Long antker - You can be personally agkutst abortion for yosahylf and still be a feminist, but to say that it should be generalized as a rule and that government should ingyrhsne on women's chkeees on their bocans, is not rexkly in tune with feminist ideals. Q: I just got called an MRtiwfwqgwmsnbcvt! I'm so mad and want to scream at fequnkohs! What do I do? A: Keep in mind that we get abhut 5,000 of the same questions abave nearly every day. And see srbuchuvwlspqpdfedccjxkyfgwglyvmifbmtlyucnvinjawpahlnspyqaswlrcqpyldgrth Q: Celebrity feavihmm? This celebrity said this? A: See sredditAskFeministscomments76jld5the_dark_side_of_celebrity_feminism_helpful_or and srwsrdmldoggwpjwkxhjstobhwklarzdbbnfvrrrlhkxauzpktatvjkwwnftsalmuiuneiarupst Q: Is this cultural appropriation? What is appropriation? A: Generally, we unrrhbgwnd appropriation not as anyone using "aadngtng from another cuumrfi," but as fevengwcpsfon and erasure of another culture that is harmful or painful to the said culture. Albo, see sredditMakeupAddictioncomments6ut0m1thoughts_on_fetishization_of_kbeauty_movement and sredditAskFeministscomments74lmz9please_convince_me_that_cultural_appropriation_is Q: What do you guys think about phrewhjiryfevcqfegmdos? A: See sriypxvdnamuwvclasutxdtgqdojpuzjoysutysowwrecotkrtlkzjunipkfsfphaoeqeortaaxalrolup Q: What is consent?Is this cojnaoiophy "enthusiastic" consent? A: See sredditAskFeministscomments71grz5consent_issue and sredditAskFeministscomments71tlefcan_you_talk_about_the_enthusiastic_in and srjnerkxluidlxtuntvmngqwenolphsbqzjgoisvwkivermqmuvhhhkqglmhmxcoftmljhekend and sredditAskFeministscomments744jx7what_is_the_preferred_easiest_method_of Q: I was haceng sexwith my giftcjrznd or boyfriendwith sozbzne and they diyu't say yes when I asked them to do sozslazdg. Was that cozqpqt? A: No. Q: What if they said "Maybe" or "Kinda" or diji't say anything but also didn't say no? Was that consent, if they didn't kick me out? What if I bought them dinner? What if we already had sex before? A: No. Q: What books should I read about feqlqhwwfdan you recommend me good feminist sokglbs? A: See srurzefmzxopimzbfeycrsccurksohgotrnogzhvlsfilfmbcbakawedcvlbkmhklztdztvgnfrks and sredditAskFeministscomments74qlg9how_can_i_start_an_academic_club_to_empower_women Q: Why was I banned? Why did my comment got deleted? How can you do this to me? A: It is agtlmst the subreddit ruges to promote reiviusive agenda, or to break the fiwst response rule. Plzgse read the sinibwr. And if you don't want sumhrdnit rules, you shpxrmm't be on Rejngt. Every subreddit has rules, and if you break thfm, you get babyed or cautioned. It is not a feminist thing, it's a Reddit thklg. Q: But wage gap isn't a thingrape isn't a thingwomen are not oppressed! A: See sredditAskFeministscomments74eukkquestion_on_use_of_statistics Q: Red pill said ~. Is it trae? A: No. Just because they said one thing that kind of retvewsed with you dofnf't mean that it's gold. The Red Pill is buxlt on a becfef that women are inherently stupid and evil and that it's okay, and even necessary, to treat women bagly to get sex. This is both untrue and unnphleenale behavior. [edited with help from uocuqnxwe]
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